I’m sure every girl has said to themselves at some stage, “If only I was more like her…” Once we’re trapped in the whirlwind of these thoughts, it’s hard to stop them. “I wish I had a figure like her.” “I wish I was pretty like her.” “I wish boys would pay attention to me, like they do to her.” When we dwell on these miserable thoughts, we become just that – miserable!
It’s especially hard for girls who live in the 21st Century to be content with themselves, simply because the world encourages us to want more. It’s not hard to see when we notice models posing in a magazine or plastered across a store wall. There’s a constant hounding at the individual to look better which is greatly encouraged by the media.
But think about this: Those models are ordinary women. The makeup artists cake their face, wardrobe directors know just what she should wear to highlight her features, and then the perfect light is casted to perfect the whole look. But that look isn’t her. Even after the photos have been taken, in comes the computer experts who create a bunch of digital effects to complete the photos. When we see that photo, we are seeing a bunch of effects to portray the world’s ideal look!
Even the models themselves are not content with what they look like. A lot of them have anorexia nervosa, so the image we see is often an unhealthy weight. Please don’t think that if we lost a bit of weight, we’d be happy. Please don’t think that if we wore just the right makeup and clothing, then we’d be content. Because when we begin trying to improve our appearance, it becomes a never-ending cycle. We’ll become fixated with what we look like, and it will could possibly turn into a disorder.
There’s nothing wrong with trying out some new makeup or clothing, but it’s the motive that changes everything. When we are content with the way we are, we will be free from the common lies, and our minds won’t be plagued with them.
God must be so sad that the world has turned this way. He wants His creations to know just how beautiful and unique each of us are, yet here is Satan spreading these terrible lies that have had such a huge and devastating impact on the world.
Let’s think to ourselves for a moment, “Why do we want to change?” Is it because we want to fit in with our friends? Is it because we want to get a boy’s attention? Well, if we have friends like that, who will only accept us if we look a certain way, then they are not real friends. And if there’s a boy who will only care about us if we look a certain way, then that’s not really love.
We need to surround ourselves with those true friends who will love us unconditionally. That is true friendship. If we are going to have a relationship, don’t we want to have someone who will love us always, even when we get old, grey, and wrinkled?
Most importantly, God loves us more than all the love in the world combined! He loves us so unconditionally that no one can understand the extent of that love. We don’t have to look a certain way to earn His love. We don’t even have to behave a certain way for Him to love us. He always loves us; He always loves everyone.
Let’s go about our lives, remembering that God accepts us, and loves us unconditionally. Let’s battle that loser, Satan, who tries to destroy us with those filthy lies. It’s not going to be easy, but life is going to be a whole lot more joyful.
Sarah Tinning – Column: Living With a Positive Mindset
Sarah is a 17-year-old, living in Australia. She loves God, her family, singing, writing songs and novels, and playing guitar. She enjoys meeting up with friends, and just putting a smile on people’s faces; even better, making them laugh! She blogs about books, movies, music, and life at www.foreveraspiringwriter.wordpress.com