Embrace Your Uniqueness

How to Find Your Purpose & Learn to Love Yourself

March 28, 2016

I know I am a child of God, I know I have a purpose, and I know I can do great things through my Savior.


But even when I acknowledged these things, I still felt like I came short of  answering my questions. These are wonderful facts, truths that should fill me up–but too generic. What makes me … me? Who am I personally? And what is my individual purpose in life? God loves each of us and has made us unique. Here are lessons He’s shared with me over the past few years.


     1. I do not need to be like others


I always felt like I had to be like my friends. I had do the same things as them, like the same foods, watch the same TV shows, etc. But I often felt left out when I did these things. It just wasn’t me to sit around and play video games or watch scary movies.


But I didn’t have to. No two snowflakes is alike. None. If you live in a place that gets any amount of snow, you know just how spectacular this is. Likewise, God made each and every person different. We all have unique fingerprints, personalities, and physical looks. He did that because–though He loves us all the same, what’s the point in loving many if truly you’re only loving one person?



“For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand, that we should walk in them.” ~Ephesians 2:10 ESV


     2. God has a purpose for me


We are often tempted in our teenage years to sway between “I have great ideas for my future!” to “I will never amount to anything and no one will even notice when I’m gone.” I know we all deeply enjoy these mood swings. Why can’t we just get a grip on what is real? If we don’t make a difference to this world, why can’t we see that? Are we blind to what everyone else is seeing–or in this case, not seeing? But if we will make an impact with our lives, why can’t we know that now? If God has great plans for us why do we feel so crappy and useless?


I believe it’s because God wants us to strive for a better tomorrow. Maybe we’re down in the dumps today, but with the help of our Savior, we have to power to make our futures great. But it can go either way. If we leave it up to fate and never try, we will miss every opportunity and life won’t be fulfilling. Luckily we have an awesome friend to help us make our lives amazingly wonderful, and that friend has great plans for us if we are only willing to try.



“For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare[a] and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope.” ~Jeremiah 29:11 ESV


     3. I am beautiful


I hate my scars. My eyesight stinks. My hair won’t cooperate! These are some struggles I deal with everyday. Minor things, but minor things can add up. As a child, I would run around with the guys. Playing football and wrestling were great fun. If we got hurt we would suck it up and show off our scars later.


But now that I’m older, I sometimes look at my scars with disgust. They are blemishes on my once even toned skin. But I have come to realize that though I may not like the look of my scars, they are the reminders of happy memories: Old friends, lots of laughter, mommy cuddling me when I cried, great accomplishments, and even sorrows.


These scars represent my life, and I can either be ashamed of them, or I can embrace them. Everyone has things they don’t like about themselves, but God made us in His image. Not physically, but emotionally and mentally. We are beautiful in His sight because He doesn’t look at our outward beauty, but the loveliness of our hearts.



“You shall be a crown of beauty in the hand of the Lord, and a royal diadem in the hand of your God.” ~Isaiah 62:3 ESV





      4. Those around me are beautiful


Just as I need to accept that I am beautiful inside and out, I need to realize that those around me are beautiful, too. Just because I do not agree with others on topics of religion, politics, or even beauty standards does not mean that these people are not beautiful.


Everyone has grown up in different circumstances. God has a plan for everyone, including people we don’t agree with or those different from us.


A short while ago, I met this young man at a public speaking conference. He had Down Syndrome–and when I first saw him, I felt a little pity, but then I kind of forgot about it. The next day I talked with him and we became good friends. I didn’t feel pity for him anymore–instead, I felt pity for myself. Carl was the kindest, most sweet boy ever. He was smart and loved to read. He had family who loved him and he made true friends with everyone he met. I had made judgements–maybe not mean ones, but a judgement of him nonetheless, before I even got to know him. Everyone is beautiful, no matter what background they come from.



“But if anyone has the world’s goods and sees his brother in need, yet closes his heart against him, how does God’s love abide in him?” ~1 John 3:17 ESV


     5. God loves me for me.


We all make mistakes. We doubt ourselves, we doubt God, we judge others, and we make many other countless sins. But God looks past this.


He said, “I love this person. I love Carl. I love Brooke. I love all of my children. I don’t care if she judged unfairly, I don’t care if they lied, stole, or cheated against me. I love them with all of my heart. I love Carl for his childlike innocence, and the way he overcomes his weaknesses. I love Brooke for the way she finds a way to look past the outside of a person and tries, sometimes failing, to see who they truly are.”


God made us, and He said he would never ever abandon us. No matter what we say, no matter what we do, He will always be by our side.



“Who is a God like you, pardoning iniquity and passing over transgression for the remnant of his inheritance? He does not retain his anger forever, because he delights in steadfast love.” ~Micah 7:18 ESV





IMG_1339Brooke Faulkner – Column: Embrace Your Uniqueness

Brooke Faulkner is a life loving sixteen year old. She lives in the majestic mountains and spends her time reading, writing, learning, teasing friends, and trying to enjoy her beautiful life. She believes giving glory to God and enjoying Him forever is the most wonderful purpose on earth and hopes to do that through her writing and acting. A fun-loving ENFP she can’t wait to get to know new people. You can now find her at ravensandwriting.blogspot.com with some of her other writing friends.



  1. Sarah T

    March 29, 2016 at 9:12 pm Reply

    Excellent post! I found myself thoroughly agreeing with this, and it’s something that everyone needs to hear! 😀

  2. Micaiah

    March 30, 2016 at 1:39 pm Reply

    I love this post, Brooke! I find myself sometimes feeling that I need to be like others when really, I need to be me. And God made me beautifully.

  3. Joy

    April 2, 2016 at 3:58 pm Reply

    Thank you for this post, Brooke! I think these are things we all need to be reminded of. We are fearfully and wonderfully made by our God that loves us more than we could imagine!

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