I would assume you probably tell your best friend everything. Most of us would defend our best friend no matter the cost, but we should probably examine our close friendship to see if they are truly the right person to be your friend.
Friendship is more than a close relationship with someone, it’s more like a bond. In 2 Samuel chapter 13, we find a story about one of David’s sons named Amnon. Amnon had a sister named Tamar and he “fell in love” with her. Amnon’s friend named Jonadab, encouraged Amnon to fake illness so David would send in Tamar and then Amnon would “make his move”.
The point of this whole story, I believe, is that Amnon didn’t have the right kind of friend. If Jonadab had been the right kind of friend, he would have said, “Amnon you shouldn’t have feelings for your sister like this”–but instead, Jonadab encouraged Amnon’s behavior. In order to be a friend, you need to encourage someone in the right direction.
1.) Encourage your friends to do right.
2 Samuel 13:5– “And Jonadab said unto him, Lay thee down on thy bed, and make thyself sick: and when thy father cometh to see thee, say unto him, I pray thee, let my sister Tamar come, and give me meat, and dress the meat in my sight, that I may see it, and eat it at her hand.”
Jonadab encouraged Amnon to do the wrong thing, and that caused a serious conflict between Amnon and his sister. Friends should point their friends in the right direction.
2.) Encourage your friends to walk with God
Luke 15:6 “And when he cometh home, he calleth together his friends and neighbours, saying unto them, Rejoice with me; for I have found my sheep which was lost.”
This is where Christ tells the parable of the lost sheep. Christ says that when he found the sheep, he called his friends and neighbors to rejoice with him.
As a friend, we should encourage friends to rejoice in the good times of answered prayers and seeing souls saved. They should also encourage to pray and read our Bibles.
3.) Encourage your friends in love.
Proverbs 17:17-“A friend loveth at all times, and a brother is born for adversity.”
A friend should encourage another in love–whether it be about a problem they are having, or if they’re excited about something going on in their life. We should lift up our friends and enjoy life with each other as we wait for Christ to return. Christ was a great friend that encouraged others in love, to do right, and to walk with God.
Adrianna Maria – Column: Faith
Adrianna Pena is an 18-year-old senior in high school. She’s a girl who has a passion for writing and a love for her Savior. In her free time, she enjoys reading, blogging, and playing piano. She’s also a major coffee addict!